It's no secret that I am a HUGE fan of Tori & Dean. What I love best about the two of them is their honesty when it comes to family and relationships. They don't try to pretend like everything is perfect all the time, and that is sort of refreshing to see because I don't believe that any real relationship is perfect all the time. But if you love someone...and I mean truly love someone...you can't fake that.
The tabloids have really been slamming Tori and Dean's relationship lately by throwing around titles like "In it For the Money" and "A Loveless Marriage". I am sure it doesn't help the Dean's ex has written a tell-all book claiming that Dean only hooked up with Tori to advance his career. And while I don't necessarily believe that statement, I don't blame his ex for wanting to ruin his life and his new marriage. If Eric ever left me for a Hollywood celebrity and then started up a reality show to document how truly fabulous his new life is, I would do a lot worse than write a nasty book. Seriously...shit would go down.
But if you really want to know my honest opinion, I think that Tori and Dean are just going through what every couple goes through when they have two little babies running around. In the middle of trying to balance family, work, a house, responsibilities, etc...you sometimes lose that connection you once had with your partner. Its not gone completely, and there are brief moments when you can spark the fire, but overall...things are very different. You don't have time for each other like you use to. You also don't have time for your friends or your hobbies and when there is time for either of these things, you feel guilty for not spending it with your family. Its no secret...this new life, although very rewarding, is tough on your relationship.
The solution to all this seems pretty simple: make more time for your husband or wife. But how do you do that? How do you find time to reconnect when you barely have time to shower every day? It looks like this new season of Tori & Dean is going to be all about finding the answer to that question. Judging by the previews, it looks like it's going to be a very dramatic season. But I really do look forward to watching it, especially since I find myself in a similar position sometimes.
Now don't get me wrong...Eric and I are not "In it For the Money" and this certainly isn't "A Loveless Marriage". We love each other very much and we know we are in this for the long haul. But I do think it has been entirely too long since we went out to dinner alone, had a few drinks, laughed, talked and just...well...reconnected.
Now, I know we are certainly not the only couple out there that feels this way. I know some of my girlfriends and I talk about this on a regular basis. But what are we doing about it? We talk, and talk, and talk...but still don't take any action. So...I told Eric tonight that I AM taking action. I want us to have at least one date night a month. I don't care if we go out, or stay in, but the stipulation is that we have to be together. Alone. No kids. No phones. No computer. No interruptions. Just us. And this is just the beginning. I still want to figure out other ways to bring back the spark in our relationship...but I don't know where else to start.
So that's where all of you come in!!! I would love to hear what all of you do to reconnect with your partner. Do you have special date nights? Do you leave each other sweet notes or write love letters? Do you do little things for each other for no reason? I know one thing Eric loves is when I pack him his lunch and slip a little picture or note in his lunch box. It is something so small, but he always appreciates it :-) So...share away friends!! I would love to hear your relationship advice :-)